All families are different, and the ups and downs of family life have a huge effect on children and young people. The love and support children feel from parents and relatives will give them the strength to grow and develop. But all families go through difficult times and some children and young people can find it hard to get on with parents or siblings.
This can be for a variety of reasons including:
- Different personalities clashing and disagreements over ways of doing things
- Jealousy or fighting between brothers and sisters
- Parents arguing
- Divorce or separation
- New step-parents or step-brothers and sisters
- A parent or relative having mental health problems, disabilities or illness
- A parent or relative having alcohol or drug problems
- Stresses due to unemployment, money or housing problems.
- Domestic violence
- Cultural or generational differences
- The effects of bereavement
- Abuse or neglect
Children and young people often think family problems are their fault, even if nobody has told them this. Changes in the family can unsettle and upset and make children feel insecure and bad about themselves. They may feel angry, anxious or depressed. These feelings can affect other areas of their lives such as school and friendships.
Most families have arguments and struggles, however sometimes we can get so involved in the struggle that we cannot see our way out of it. Sometimes families and young people can get stuck in a situation where they feel helpless, powerless and unable to understand one another. Once stuck in a state like that, communication and relationships can often deteriorate.
When to get help?
If you find that difficulties persist or that relationships are deteriorating, then it is probably a good idea to get help. The earlier intervention can take place, the quicker the recovery. Every person and family has a wealth of resources inside them, but sometimes we need a little outside help to help connect us to our sense of resilience and resource in order to get out of being trapped in helplessness.
If you need help as a family, it does not mean that you are not coping or that you have failed as parents. We all need help from time to time. It is a sign of strength and not weakness to ask for help or support.
Where to get help?
We provide a range of help for families and parents. We provide parenting courses, parenting educational workshops as well as family therapy and couples therapy. The parenting courses as well as the workshops will be advertised on our website. You could make a referral to us yourself or your GP can refer.
What can Stepping Stones offer?
- We offer all the interventions in our clinic.
- The cost of psychological therapies is £150 and usually offered in blocks of 6
- The cost of group therapies is £60 per group
- The cost of psychiatric treatment and review is £180 per 30 minute session
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